The Need To Be Whole
Whatever we do in this life, be it buying a garment, reading a book or searching for our life mate, we human beings seek for one thing. All the movies we watch or the commercials are always structured in this manner also. Those, which neglect to comply with this principle, shall result in failure… These are the words quoted from Mr. Celil Oker, my dear instructor for Story Telling lessons.
Either conscious or unconscious we all want to be “whole”. We want wholeness in our emotions and in our mindset. Moreover, we want our spirit, mind and body to be in a whole state. If we don’t feel the “wholeness” that we look for, we try to complete it. If we can’t find it and continue to see the absence, we feel uneasy. Indeed, we are “whole”, however not aware of it most of the times or we have hurdles to feel it or to live it at the mind level. If we see that what we want in life is not happening, we start thinking that the life itself or what we are living through is faulty, unfair or scarce. We then say, “… it failed again”, and we seek for perfectness. Yet we find neither perfectness nor wholeness. Is there anything like perfect? I feel it belongs to a fairy tale. One of my dear friends shared with me this precious quote: “it is frustrating to strive for perfectness, whereas it is motivating to strive for excellence”, which I believe is a great guide.
There is no such thing as perfectness either in mysticism or in the divinity accepted by the eastern philosophy. Everything in this universe carries the components of the “divine”: the good- the bad; the beautiful-the ugly; the right-the wrong; the less-the more etc. we are passing through all these situations at different phases of our life. So we live the “wholeness” within us exactly at this point when we are able to experience all these. We are all of it and we are “whole” for this unique state. The rest is to accept it, to experience it deeply and to enjoy it. Moreover, if we start understanding the “wholeness”, we have endless opportunities available to us. 🙂
Which one do you prefer? Or does it really matter? If you have a target to reach is it really important how many steps do you need to take or whether you need to take big steps or small steps to reach your target, what do you think? We all have a focus...